How often have you heard the comment ‘I’m just waiting for this or that to happen before I can feel happy or successful?”

The truth is that happiness and success are all attitudes and states of mind and therefore are available to us right now without any need to wait for them to mysteriously descend on us from high. We can be as happy and successful as we choose to be. 

Unfortunately for most of us we don’t make that decision and we continue to put off what we say we want until the conditions are just right and of course those conditions are never just right enough. So our lack of happiness and success (according to our various personal definitions) continues unabated and unchallenged. Continue reading →

We have all been brought up to believe that success is the result of competitive independence. Common catch cries being: us against them – dog eat dog – screw them before they screw you! The corridors of power are littered with the corpses of executives who have outlived their “use by dates”.

We have learned through our educationalists and other role models that the road to success is through competitive win/loose strategies. This model of course suits our egos perfectly. When we achieve what we have set out to do we reinforce the idea that somehow we are special and better than eveyone else. When we fail to achieve our goals we simply blame other people and external events. Whichever way it goes the ego wins but do we? Continue reading →